The twenty-first century is starting to be called the age of melancholy, that is, feeling down or being downright depressed. It is well understood that traumatic events can cause depression; just look at the soldiers returning from Afghanistan. A less understood cause of depression is the traits of those who become depressed.
- Feeling sorry for yourself and expecting pity from others.
- Thinking of all the bad things that could happen to you in the future.
- Ruminating endlessly on the past.
- Considering yourself worse off than others.
- Not satisfied with anything less than perfect.
Being aware of any or all of these traits in yourself is one thing; doing something about them is quite another. You don’t just wake up one morning and say, “Today I will stop feeling sorry for myself.” Maybe some people can do that, but most can’t. If you recognize any of these traits in yourself, it’s time to see a psychotherapist, counselor, or anyone else who can work with you to eradicate the trait(s).