194. The Stress Bucket

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As we all know, there is a very close connection between stress and the afflictions of depression and anxiety.

I was coaching a client who had been struggling with low-grade depression for several years, which sometimes flared up into major depression. I was not making much headway until I discussed with her the idea that she was overloading her stress bucket.

I told her that some people had large stress buckets and some people like us who are prone to depression have smaller stress buckets and must be vigilant to keep them from overflowing. Suddenly hope came into her face and she said with excitement, “So, what I need to do is keep stress under control and I won’t be depressed.” I replied, “For you, that is the case.”

The next time I saw her she was still excited. “The last three weeks have gone very well for me. I have used the tools you gave me to hold stress down and I’m feeling better than I have for a long time.” There was on her face a smile that replaced the glum look I had been used to seeing. Such a simple concept gave her a visual that allowed her to see a solution to her depression for the first time.

About Patrick Day

In 2010, I escaped from four long years of deep, dark depression. This blog shares lessons I learned from those years as depicted in my autobiography - How I Escaped from Depression - as well as other insights about depression and anxiety that only come from someone who has gone through it. When you have a heart attack, you become an expert in heart attacks. When you have diabetes, you become an expert in that condition. As such, I am an expert in depression, with a four-year experiential degree and graduate studies in how to live a life going forward that keeps the ever-lurking Depression at a healthy distance.
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